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Abstract

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً

And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them ; and He placed between you affection and mercy." [i].

The institution of Nikah rests upon spiritual tranquility and mutual compassion. Today, the Muslim family structure faces a profound crisis. Young individuals increasingly exercise their right to choose their spouses, a practice culturally labeled as love marriage. This shift clashes violently with deeply rooted traditions, triggering boycotts, emotional trauma, and extreme family severances. Our socio-legal exploration looks at this contemporary tension through the lens of Islamic jurisprudence. By examining classical texts and current societal realities, the discussion uncovers how cultural rigidity—such as caste prejudices and material demands—wrongfully stifles legitimate marital choices. The Qur’an warns against such oppressive boundaries. Allah commands, فَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ أَن يَنكِحْنَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ إِذَا تَرَاضَوْا بَيْنَهُم بِالْمَعْرُوفِ, translated as "do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner" [ii].Islamic law champions a delicate equilibrium. It fully recognizes the independent consent of a mature woman while simultaneously valuing the protective wisdom of guardianship (Wilayah). We see a tragic pattern where young couples rush into decisions out of romantic idealism, ignoring true compatibility (Kafa'ah). Parents react with absolute authoritarianism. Both extremes destroy the family fabric. The way forward requires reviving the Prophetic tradition of consultation. Pre-marital counseling and institutionalized family arbitration are not just modern needs; they reflect the core of Islamic dispute resolution. True familial harmony emerges only when the emotional rights of the youth blend naturally with the experienced guidance of elders, shielding the sacred bond of marriage from both rebellious individualism and oppressive customs.

[i] Ar-Rum: 21

[ii] Al-Baqarah: 232